Moderation is key. If you cant completely abstain then moderation is the way to go with this stuff.
I cant believe that I am still learning this lesson. For 15 years I have had a relationship with alcohol and its always been on the rocks – see what I did there. Sorry that was lame!
I have always struggled somewhat with alcohol moderation, The problem is that once I have had a few all rationality goes out the window. I start knocking them in and variety becomes the spice of life which is a sure way to black out and forget the night. Usually I don’t stop until I pass out.
Why do I do this? Honestly I don’t know but I think it is more likely a combination of reasons rather than one big one.
- I am not that comfortable in social situations and get anxious
- Boredom
- Pent up anger and stress from my own stuff going on in my head
These are the main reasons for my issue with alcohol.
Don’t get me wrong I have had allot of nights on the drink where I have had the time of my life, made great memories and was a perfect delight to be around but the bad nights are the ones that stick unfortunately and as I get older it is less acceptable and more embarrassing.
Recently I had a pretty embarrassing experience at my cousins wedding where I got completely obliterated and although I cannot remember much I am pretty sure I made a complete fool of myself. Another highlight of the evening is that I started a fight with a relatives partner. I am shaking my head right now. Luckily I was surrounded by people that care about me and the situation was contained and dealt with quickly before it could ruin everyone’s night.
Right well that is enough of the doom and gloom what’s done is done! Now what are some solutions that may be able to help me out in the future?
- stop drinking.
- I could stop drinking altogether, limit my time at social gatherings and events that revolve around alcohol and spend my time at more constructive tasks
- stay clear of the spirits, stick to beer.
- For me personally I find beer is a lazier drunk and I think that I am less likely to become aggressive when I drink it.
- Only drink on occasion and limit myself to a predetermined amount
- This one I think would be tricky, social life in Ireland revolves largely around alcohol but with some planning and exercised will power it could work. .i.e don’t stay for the whole night and have something planned later or the next day that cant be missed.
I know there are people out there who struggle much worse than me with alcohol and other drugs and I wish them well on their journey. I think one thing that can definitely help is to talk to people. Like anxiety alcohol is something that allot of people struggle with and its only when you talk to other people that you realize its not just you and that its quite a common problem with people.
I hope that this helps even one person out there who has had a similar problem at some point or is going through something similar right now. Feel free to get in touch if you would like to chat, share your story with me or if you have any advice.
Peace out and catch you next time.
